What is a good MMO that has a great community?

What is a good MMO that has a great community (Very different people, tolerance, that kind of thing), not so strict rules, and the cough has a lot of drama-ish stuff, or does the staff make fun of players, or at special events or something? It should be about .hack but shouldn’t be. I’d like it to be, however.
In other words, like cyberconnects.com, but somewhere else.